Paula Faris, a TV correspondent, advises to imagine your older self sitting on the front porch in a rocking chair. Looking back over your life, would your older self do anything different?
To me that was a powerful image. Me, on a rocking chair, looking back through my life. Would I do anything different?
I would have listened to me more than I listened to others. Scanning back through time, I see most of the disasters were caused by me running right over that intuitive voice of mine towards a voice I thought was wiser, more experienced. It wasn’t experienced with me. No one knows me better than I know myself. No one cares about my money more than me. No one can predict the future, not even me. But, I can better the odds with inside information. I should have listened to me more.
I would have banished worry from my life as soon as I understood the concept. Funny, the analogy I like most about worry is comparing it to rocking in a rocking chair. Lot of activity, but no forward motion. Oh the hours wasted on worrying about things that were in the past, unchangeable, and things in the future that hadn’t even come to pass and were not likely to. They were just possibilities. Why waste my energy on possibilities when I can instead use it to make things happen?
I would have danced in the rain, instead of covering up as much as possible to get to wherever I was going as quickly as possible.
I would have enjoyed my children where they were, instead of thinking of where they were going or hoping they would get there soon. Wishing for the day they could feed themselves, dress themselves, cross the street themselves, drive themselves has turned into wishing it would all slow down and I could do it again, savoring every moment.
I would have laughed more and yelled less, enjoying life and letting the small stuff go.
I would have loved without keeping score.
I would have given without keeping score.
I have a few decades before I turn in my desk chair for a rocking chair, a few decades to get it right, so when I am sitting there, reflecting on my life, I can do so without regret.
Slowing down, savoring my life and filling it with laughter, love and dancing…not a bad assignment.