A Different Perspective on the Past
If you would have asked me last week what I remember about 2015, I would have told you that it was a tough year. It started with me having to leave all my friends and everything that was familiar to me and move to what seemed like a million miles away. The move was physically, emotionally and psychologically draining. My year ended with surgery and complications and pain.
That is what I would have told you then.
But, it is not what I would now.
At the beginning of each new year I write a list of things I did the year before in my journal. It is a good way to recall the big things and the little things that made the year good and bad. I just finished my list. Turns out 2015 was good. Really good.
I did more adventurous, fun and exciting things last year than maybe the three years before. I hiked, partied, had dinner parties, celebrated EVERYTHING, went to concerts, to Europe and to Toronto too many times to count. And, champagne…so much champagne!
The year was good.
Until I went back month by month and recounted what I had done, I had no idea it was THAT GOOD.
Why did I let the tough things overshadow all of the wonderful things? Is it human nature? Is it our default to see the worst first? Or is it just mine?
I would have categorized yesterday as a crappy day for a variety of reasons. But, I got to talk to an amazing friend for over an hour. I got to walk in the sunshine, something I am not going to be able to do on this rainy, dreary day. I had the most amazing blueberry pancakes. A book that is rarely in stock at Chapters was sitting on the shelf waiting for me. It is a favorite and I gave my copy away so it was like a friend coming home with me. Until I looked for the good, I didn’t see it. I just saw stress, disappointment and difficulty.
Maybe that is where the power of gratitude and a positive perspective lies. It takes our eyes off of the bad and makes us focus on the good.
No matter what kind of day you have, there is good. You can breathe or walk or sing (okay, so technically I am the only one who thinks I can sing but I still take my ability as a victory) or see or smell or taste or have a hot shower or be sheltered from the rain in whatever house you live in or have your car start (and have gas in it) or have choices for what you want for lunch or have a friend to call or be able to have the freedom in this country to say this sucks or have the incredible convenience of WiFi or ramble on in public for as long as you want. Evidently, I take the right to ramble seriously.
See, there is good.
If we look for it instead of whining about the crap we will be happier. It is impossible not to be. I just have to relive those blueberry pancakes from this morning and all my blues go away.
If you believe you are having a bad day, right now, I mean RIGHT NOW, stop and find five things that were good today. If you have to cheat and look at my list above, do so. And, every time you start telling the story of what a terrible day you had, add a but. I had a terrible day BUT the Starbucks barista spelled my name right for the very first time and my feet didn’t get wet in the rain and I got one of my proposals done or the baby slept for a whole 45 minutes (a record) and something on Facebook made me laugh out loud and I am now home, comfortable with a glass of wine in hand.
Tell me you don’t feel better.
Because there is good in every minute.
You just have to look for it.
Then, you might be surprised it was good.
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May your week be filled with love and light,