I am a fan of Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday. This past week she interviewed Francine and David Wheeler. Their son, Benny, was one of the twenty children killed at Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting. It was a profound, moving experience.
When asked whether they are advocates for gun control, Francine answered she is an advocate for love. I realized that is what I want to be.
It is easy being an advocate for love when the sun is shining, when the Christmas Spirit is present in the smells of cinnamon and gingerbread and the sounds of carols, when your children are healthy and happy. But, what about in the darkness?
The Wheelers are experiencing such deep pain and loss. Their lives should be defined by despair. Yet, they are advocates for love.
The question I have is am I strong enough to be an advocate for love even when I am angry, fearful, grief-stricken and sad? Do I have it in me to look past the darkness and see the light in all of us? Can I let go of revenge and replace it with forgiveness?
On the morning of the shooting, Benny, out of the blue, asked his parents what forgiveness is. He was six-years-old so it was not an expected conversation with no precluding situation. I think it was a seed, a gift to his parents to show them the right path to take.
I feel I am a part-time advocate for love. I lead with love when it is easy. When challenged, my resolve wanes and I resort to anger and frustration, fear and hate. After watching the Wheelers, I now know that the journey of life is all about becoming a full-time advocate for love and forgiveness.
For that is our path to the divine.